How To Deal With Rejection From A Crush
We all deal with rejection. It’s a part of life. And when you’re in the dating game, you’re bound to get rejected at some point from a crush of yours (unless you get completely lucky and find the love of your life on your first try or if you simply never try in general, which I would not encourage).
It’s hard, I know, it probably feels like a punch in the gut, face and crotch all at the same time but just like anything in life, it’s how you handle yourself in tough situations and get through them that makes you stronger. With that said, if you don’t know how to deal with rejection from a crush, check out our tips below.
Okay, so you just got rejected from your crush…
Never Take It Personally – We simply can’t control what or how others feel so try not to take a personally. Even if we don’t admit it, we all have some sort of “type” that we naturally gravitate towards and unfortunately, sometimes you may just not be your crushes’ “type”. It happens.
Listen, Really Listen – If she says she doesn’t have the same feelings you have for her, take her word for it. That’s not a subliminal message to try to trick you or play games. If she is into playing games, then realize she probably isn’t mature enough for you to begin with.
Don’t Force It – If she politely rejected you, more than likely that’s not a sign for you to try harder. Quite frankly, I think you should get the hint. A helpful tip: the hint isn’t to force it.
The worst thing you can do is to build up false hopes that something still can happen. Don’t do that to yourself. Just continue being yourself without trying to force things. Matter of fact, there have been plenty of occasions where you stop trying (because we all know when you have a crush, you end up doing weird crush things) and then gradually she becomes interested in you because she actually sees you for you.
You deserve someone who actually likes you for you without trying to convince them.
Don’t Try To Guilt Them – This is a continuation of the previous step but guilt tripping is another way of forcing it and it doesn’t make you look good at all. It also makes you look very desperate which is a huge turnoff for women.
Don’t Stop Being Friendly – What I mean is don’t burn bridges, especially if you guys were friends beforehand. Now I’m sure things will be different but you don’t want to shun her and look like a spoiled brat who tosses a tantrum whenever they don’t get their way. That just shows reassurance to her that she made the right choice of not wanting to be with you.
Show that you’re kind and understanding while trying to be friendly. It shows you’re a bigger person but just remember, they’re not your number one so don’t put them on a pedestal and jump whenever they call.
Focus On The Positives And Don’t Dwell On The Negatives – There are always the good and the bad but it’s how you deal with all of it that makes you stronger.
Yes, the negative include being rejected because rejection sucks. But instead of focusing on that one aspect, look at all the positives that came from it.
You no longer have that sense of false hopes of potentially being with her so you can move on to other fish in the sea, which also frees you up of that time and space you would probably spend on trying to impress her.
You tried and took a chance which is better than never trying.
You realize you probably deserve better and you’re right. You should be with someone who wants to be with you.
Look at rejection as an opportunity rather than the end of the road.
Get Your Mind Off The Rejection – Do what makes you laugh, smile or feel good as it’ll be easier to deal with rejection. Spend time with your friends, laugh about it. I feel if you can’t laugh about things in life then you’ll probably be very uptight in life.
Go play sports or workout to get it off your chest. Flip the negatives of a rejection into a positive but make sure you get your mind off of it so you can prep for the next step of getting over it.
Realize This Crush Will Not Be Your Only Crush – If this was your first real crush, trust me, there will be plenty of other crushes. There are plenty of fish in the sea so don’t let one rejection get to you or stop you from trying.
Again, it’s how you deal with the tough times that make you stronger.
Learn From It – The more you deal with difficult situations like being rejected, it because so much easier to bounce back and learn from, which will only help you if you identify it.
For example, the more you get rejected and the less you care and let it get to you, the more confidence you’ll build. And the more confidence you gain, the more it’ll attract those other fishes in the sea.
See how that works? It goes full circle from being rejected to building confidence and attracting the other women by doing so.
Remember, rejection is all a part of life. It’s how you deal with it that makes you that much stronger and confident!